I have relatives/friends who are in a live-in relationship & would like to visit me & stay at my home. I was raised with strong Christian values & know this kind of relationship is wrong. Do I accommodate them or tell them they cant stay together or sleep in the same room if they are staying with me or should I offer to put them up in a hotel & tell them about my stand on their live-in relationship?
You’re asking a really good question: How do we show love others to without endorsing sin? We do know we are to show others hospitality: to make others feel welcome, at home, where they feel as though they can be themselves and are encouraged to be their true selves, the selves God intended them (and us) to be all along: this is one of the most significant ways we “love our neighbor as ourselves.”
I think each of the possible scenarios you’ve offered have hospitable potential, so what matters is how you do one of those things. For example, putting them up in a hotel could be an act received by your friends as very hospitable; they might really enjoy having their own space. Or they might be offended or saddened or they might feel as though they are not welcome to stay in your house. I don’t know you’re friends, so I can’t say how they’ll respond. But you know them. You know what they’ll think. If you think there’s any possibility of their being offended by being put in a hotel, I would avoid that option.
So what about putting them up in your house? This really requires prayer, prayer, prayer. If you feel, with the Holy Spirit, strongly that you don’t want them sleeping together in your house; I think it’s reasonable to ask them to stay in separate rooms out of respect for you (perhaps especially if they’re also believers in Christ). But you’ll have to be very careful about how you go about doing this (perhaps especially if they’re not believers).
You want to be sure to do everything in love; to make sure they know you love and value them, that you consider their comfort over your own… that’s hospitality.
Personally, think it’s probably better to let them stay in the same room in your house. If they know that you believe extramarital sex is wrong, but they see that you love them enough to value them above yourself and consider them along with yourself (Phil 2:3-4), that will really speak to them about the breadth and depth of Christian charity (love).
Whatever your decision, remember that Christ kept company with all sorts of sinners, and he did so by meeting them—and us too!—where they were (which, as I said, I think can be done in any of these scenarios depending on how you go about it). And only when they asked him did he say, “Go and sin no more,” or, “Sell all your belongings and give them to the poor,” or, “You must be born again,” pointing them toward salvation and the Kingdom of God.
Blessings to you, Rachel; and God’s peace be upon you.