What does the Bible say in regards to having a commuter marriage for a certain period of time. What scriptures can I reference to support or reject the idea of a commuter marriage. When I say commuter marriage I mean living in another state for part of the week to work and then flying home the other half of the week to be with my family. What are some biblical references to working in another state and commuting back and forth in my marriage.
Thank you for writing. Interesting question; I wonder where it’s coming from. The Bible says nothing on the subject directly even though soldiers and their wives experienced a similar sort of “commuter marriage.” The Bible is rather clear that marital separation is not ideal:
Now, getting down to the questions you asked in your letter to me. First, Is it a good thing to have sexual relations? Certainly—but only within a certain context. It’s good for a man to have a wife, and for a woman to have a husband. Sexual drives are strong, but marriage is strong enough to contain them and provide for a balanced and fulfilling sexual life in a world of sexual disorder. The marriage bed must be a place of mutuality—the husband seeking to satisfy his wife, the wife seeking to satisfy her husband. Marriage is not a place to “stand up for your rights.” Marriage is a decision to serve the other, whether in bed or out. Abstaining from sex is permissible for a period of time if you both agree to it, and if it’s for the purposes of prayer and fasting—but only for such times. Then come back together again. Satan has an ingenious way of tempting us when we least expect it. (1 Corinthians 7:1-6, The Message)
But just because something is not ideal does not mean it is a sin, or that the Bible categorically rejects commuter marriages. Sometimes what is not ideal is necessary: war, for example.
Does that help? Please write again if I can be of further help.
God’s grace and peace to you.
What do you guys think? Does the Bible have anything more to offer us pertaining to this dilemma?
What advice would you give to someone in a “commuter marriage”?