Well first of all, God bless you and hello. It’s been almost a month since I accepted Jesus Christ as my savior and started attending church seriously. Anyways, I heard that many things that I did and do are sins and wrong. And I don’t mean like stealing or lying but like liking Hello Kitty, having lip piercings and listening to country music. However, I don’t think Hello Kitty is from the devil and if she where, could I just have a pastor bless my Hello Kitty belongings? In addition, I also heard french kissing is a sin? I know sex before marriage is a sin but kissing? I would really love if you answered every question in here because I’m so scared of sinning against the Lord! Oh! One more thing, my boyfriend and I are planning to get married but I was wondering if there are any requirements in Christianity. For sure I know wearing white is not one… Thanks and I really do hope to hear from you soon!! 🙂 GBY
Thanks for writing. None of the things you mentioned—Hello Kitty, piercings, country music, french kissing—are categorical sins (ie. sins all the time for everyone)… and by the way, neither are tattoos, R-rated movies, smoking, or (of age) drinking. The only way they could be sinful acts were if the Holy Spirit spoke to your heart and mind against them and you disobeyed him (which would actually make disobedience the sin). The Holy Spirit (God) knows you. He created you. So he knows if, say, certain kinds of kissing were too much for you to handle before marriage; in which case he might direct you to wait for even that until marriage. But that wouldn’t mean it would be wrong for everyone. Does that make sense? The same thing applies to tattoos, piercings, non-Christian music and movies.
Let me recommend Cornelius Plantinga’s book Not the Way It’s Supposed to Be. Especially if you are going to a church where people are telling you the things you listed are sins, this book will really help you develop a biblical understanding of sin. I highly recommend it. It’s short and easy to read and very, very helpful.
Finally, about biblical instructions for what to do during wedding ceremonies: you won’t find any. The Bible doesn’t say anything about what kinds of rituals Christians need to go through during the ceremony to have a Christian wedding. What it does talk about is marriage. It says don’t marry a non-Christian, and it talks about mutual love and respect.
I hope that is helpful to you, Zaida.
Grace and peace.